Are you ready for some turkeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Turkey Talk Printable. Questions to ask at the Thanksgiving table.:

Thanksgiving questions for dinner

My day went something like this……..

Kids out the door (lunches packed.  I mixed up for the first time ever the lunches I found out later.)  Shoes, backpacks, projects, hurry hurry hurry!!!!!!

Sat down for coffee (that was yummy, but I didn’t have the cup under the Nespresso correctly so it poured into the catchy thingy.  First time I’ve ever done that.  So not as much coffee as I may have liked.)

Got a list of vendors to a bride.

Sent a floorplan out.

Sent a marketing thingy majingy to  the agency that was past due.

Laundry started.

Rushed out the door by nine…..and proceeded to shop four stores for Thanksgiving.

I shopped and shopped for Thanksgiving.  I bought everything except a turkey (because I bought that weeks ago frozen.)  Turns out I was the ONLY person in Whole Foods that didn’t preorder a fresh turkey for pick up today.  I am not a big turkey fan.  I like the sides.  So I don’t make the biggest turkey any longer.  Plus, y’all know I hate leftovers!

I’m so very thankful that I am able to get errands out of the way and always enjoy my holidays.  I feel for the mom’s and dad’s  that work full time and can’t get things done ahead of time without added stress.  It stinks when you have to take time away from family to run an errand.  Tomorrow I will be baking, prepping and just all in all enjoying a quiet day until the kids are out of school (why do they do early release?  They could go full day!!!!)  I am so use to running errands during the day that I remembered I needed a few things from Nordstrom today and for a few minutes I pushed them off and thought I’d just run by and pick up on Friday.  Then I remembered Friday is Black Friday….and I DO  NOT shop on Black Fridays.  I hope if you are reading this you resist the urge to jump in line on Thursday to shop.  Remember the people that get forced to work on Thanksgiving day so you can get your $10 savings on a set of flatware.  Or a t.v. at a supposed discount price.  Stores can sell those same items for the same price on Friday.  Help to encourage companies to give their employees a day with their friends and families before they spend the next 25 or so days catering to shoppers.

It’s going to be a snowy Thanksgiving for us!  I’m kind of happy for that.  I am breaking one rule.  We are going to decorate a few trees on Thanksgiving.  I KNOW.  I can’t believe I am doing this.  I NEVER ever put a tree up this early.  But, as I type do you realize it’s only 30 days…..until Christmas.

I am so obsessed with decorating right now that I can’t even make a clear plan of attack.  I have too many ideas.  Which will probably never all come to fruition.

With that I am off to run one more errand.  Champagne.  We are out.  It’s a problem.  The struggle is real!

If for some reason you have a guest that brings a bottle of the sparkly that is less than your fave… Barefoot.  Which to quote a friend “just hit me over the head with a bottle of it, it’s better than the headache it gives me from drinking it.”  AMEN.  Have a few items on hand to make either a hummingbird or something more fall!

St. Germain
Club Soda

Or mix with cranberry juice, a touch of lime and club soda.  Top off with champagne.  It’s refreshing.

This year we will once again be breaking out our bowl of questions.  The premise of the questions are that the ones you are closest to you sometimes don’t know at all.  I’ve learned over the years that my husband doesn’t really like tonic water.  His favorite book (that I never would have guessed to save my life.)  His regrets, what makes him the saddest.  One year with company I learned about a new author that I now adore!  I have learned that our sitters who are our family….their life changing event…..the days and months after Hurricane Katrina where they changed schools (one her senior year.) They packed up what they could take in just a few hours and drove and drove following their parents.  Can you imagine?  I’ve learned who makes people laugh the most.  Or what Priss considers her most pride possession…..her family.

It’s one of my favorite traditions and I love how it gets more interesting each year as the kids get older.  Bubba loves to chime in on the questions now and let me tell you he has some doozy of answers.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.  I’m so thankful for so much.  We are blessed and try to remember it every day.  You can always wish for more than you have.  But, I’ve learned to be happy with what you have in every moment of the day.


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It’s not too late… can still organize

I can’t believe how many of y’all are in the same boat with me……feeling over whelmed and already behind for the holidays.

I thought I’d share a few tips while there is still time.

I just went through all our Christmas paper, ribbons, bows (I despise the ready made ones.  They are not allowed in my house.  It was a rule from Nanny when I was growing up and I follow it to this day.)  Tape, scissors, cards.  I am pleased as punch that I ordered pre printed gift labels from our family.

None the less I have taken inventory and know that I need to stock up on boxes, packing tape and I am stock piling boxes from deliveries.

On a whim I cleaned out the spice cabinet.  I hate the smell  of an old spice cabinet.  I thought i had done pretty well keeping mine cleaned out.  Low and behold I had a few spices that were from 2013!!!!  I now know why a dish I had made recently wasn’t very tasty because the three dry spices were not all up to date.  So I cleaned out and took a photo so when I am in the grocery store I can restock!

I took inventory in the pantry.  Now this is where I am super sad.  So much was out dated.  I’ve decided that perhaps a pantry is not the best idea.  I use to want one that was huge.  Now I realize it’s a waste of money in my house.  But, I did find that I need to restock nuts, stocks for cooking and pastas.  That’s all we really need in reserves.

I sat down and looked ahead and wrote dates that I have to get things done by.  That helped me so much.  I wrote out menus not only for Thanksgiving but for Christmas, Christmas morning.  I like to keep items on hand for last minute cocktails with friends.  And one thing I’m really trying to get better at… if there is nothing in the house you can always order out.  It’s not the end of the world.  That one is harder for me because I think I grew up where women always were cooking and making everything so perfect.  But, it can be perfect even when you order pizza……and a salad from a restaurant down the street.

I have filled up our calendar with all that we have to do.  But, I’ve always written deadlines.  So I have it marked showing when packages have to ship by.  When Amazon Prime will cut me off.  I need those back ups.

At the end of each Christmas season I always make notes on the calendar for things I will need.  For instance you know when that thing that sits on the shelf arrives?  I know where he has been all year long due to my short hand notes.  I also have started marking the calendar to when to plant paperwhites and such if I plan to do them for the school luncheon, or for home.  It’s those little notes that really save stress this time of year.

I am a list person.  So I have lists of lists.  I have to or I go crazy.  I know these are not huge tips on organizing.  But, for me it’s worked and helped alleviate my stress level just a tad.  I’m still crazy with things to do.  But, when I clean things out and organize I always feel so much better.

NOw if I can just find old urns for the teachers luncheon……all will be right in the world.

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Garden Home Party has the most to die for Holiday flower and plant ideas! I love their blog.

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Do you say dressing or stuffing, and do you have a silver pattern?

Warning…..random thoughts for the day.

I spent five minutes debating that over coffee this morning that Thanksgiving is not actually two weeks away.  How can that be?

I grew up in a family where we talk about dinner at breakfast…..and sometimes dinner at breakfast for two days later.  So in our house it’s not unusual that we’ve been thinking about Thanksgiving menu for weeks now.  We were at dinner last night at Root Down (celebrating that conferences were over.)  Of course what would we all talk about over dinner?  Thanksgiving dinner of course.  Root Down just changed their fall menu and it is divine!  I love RD only in the winter when it’s cold.  The kids devoured their meals.  Then devoured the to die for banana dessert.  It’s nice that Root Down is still just as good as it was the day it opened.

While talking about the menu, one thing came up.  Dressing.  The basic premise of dressing verses stuffing is that one is made inside the bird. One outside.  But,  if you grew up in the South it’s dressing.  I say dressing because it sounds better.  Stuffing never sounds as appealing to me as dressing.  Plus, I don’t put anything inside the bird other than herbs.

This Thanksgiving is kind of busy.  So I’m trying to simplify.  Thanksgiving isn’t that stressful to cook in my opinion.  I’m use to cooking big meals for company.  But, I do wish it was not so over indulgent to have so many side dishes at one meal.  I was writing out the list and realized we have potatoes, sweet potatoes, a corn dish, dressing (two types!) brussel sprouts (gotta have a green) squash, and of course….bread.  Then there’s the proteins.  I seriously need a bigger refrigerator (in the garage!!!)

One of my favorite recipes…… oyster dressing.  I love it so.  Oyster dressing was not the side dish in my family among the twenty we always had.  But, oyster dressing was always on every special menu I can remember from dinner parties to even a potluck.  It’s a Southern staple.  There was a boy I dated for a bit with this very eccentric relative that I loved dearly.  I loved them the first time I met them because they offered me a ‘liquor drink’.  That’s a Southern saying.  They had an old antebellum home that had been redone and I loved everything about it.  The silver pattern was Repousse by Kirk.  Swoon!!!!  What I also remember from that first meeting was the oyster dressing we had at dinner and it was divine.  I even remember what I wore and the exact perfume I loved at that time.  Later it was said that this boy should marry me because I was proper, knew how to hold an interesting conversation and would make for the perfect wife.  It was the kiss of death for the relationship.  That boy went on to marry a girl that didn’t even have a silver pattern.  She didn’t mingle well in the family I heard.
In the South there is a zodiac of silver that goes with the personality.  Believe you me it’s never been lost on me that my silver pattern zodiac fits me perfectly.  My place setting is Francis I.
Southern Silver Zodiac Signs

12. Repousse, Kirk:  Repousse is one of the oldest silver patterns. Repousse girls often have mothers and grandmothers who also have Repousse. One Charleston woman explains every woman in her family for three generations chose Repousse. Then her son married a woman who didn’t even have a silver pattern.  The mother-in-law insisted she pick something out and had relatives fill in the place settings. When the new bride completely bypassed Repousse by calling it “too fussy,” the mother-in-law knew the marriage wouldn’t last. And it didn’t.

Uh huh.

My hubby picked out the wedding silver we received, which is Fairfax.  It’s not on the top 12 silver patterns of the South.  But, it is very stately on the table.  I like to mix it in with my Francis table settings.  Recently I’ve moved it so we use it for everyday.  Life is short.  I like to use my silver.  Although we did pay the price not too long ago.  A teaspoon met it’s demise in the disposal.  I have 24 teaspoons so it wasn’t the end of the world.  But, it hurt.  It was definitely a teaspoon that came from this estate sale I purchased a few teaspoons from years ago.  The hallmark on the back isn’t the same.  So I joke and like to say that is the teaspoon that someone used to dig a hole in the ground and bury the family silver during the war.  That’s an old Southern joke.  Since people pride themselves on having silver handed down generation after generation.  Which is very hard to find.  I have only known one family in all my life that had actual silver from their Charleston ancestors dating back to the Civil war.

While it may seem silly saying a person is who they are based on a silver pattern…..I have found the zodiac signs to be true.  In my early 20′s I was a Grand Baroque girl.  But, then I realized I could do Francis I with all the fruit and I changed sides!

Do you have a silver pattern?  It’s never too late, let me tell you.  This excerpt on silver is from one of my favorite little books ever called Southern Belle Primer.  My husband puts this book up there with the Gone With the Wind.  He says he completely go it …meaning ME after watching or reading them.  The Primer explains why you have a funeral dish, put on lipstick, why we call it a pocketbook vs purse, why you wouldn’t be caught dead walking down the street with cigarette in your hand, and why Junior League in the South is a cult.

My children will never be short on silver to split between them.  Or my Godchild who has a set of Francis I waiting for her.  I think everyone knows how traditional I am.  I of course wanted to register for silver because I knew that it would grace my tables for years.  I love that my silver has sat on our table for holiday dinners, family dinners, Sunday dinners, or just a night of salad and pizza with friends.  It’s all about making memories and making it special.  You don’t have to have silver to make it special.  But, one day when I look ahead at what my children will take from our home to their own homes to start their own traditions, I do hope they have spouses that set a pretty table and make memories for them.  Make it special.  Like Priss likes to say.

We are entering a time in our lives right now where every now and then we get the news friends have split.  It’s hard.  You think about all the times you’ve spent together as couples, or the weddings we all attended or were in.  I am the horrible friend that always asks “what went wrong.”  Sorry but I want to know.  What made it go so wrong.  One of my clients that is going through a divorce currently, says she blames it on never sitting down for meals as a family.  She was busy being super mom.  Her husband was left to figure it all out on his own.  Date nights were given up years ago.  She said cocktails over looking their lake stopped after kids.  She said she was pinning the life that she had a million pins on pinterest (she had time while watching gymnastics and ice skating lessons) but she never did any of those things.  My clients joke is social media killed the couple.  Maybe so.  Did video kill the radio star?

This year, I am going to polish that silver for the table.  Make our traditional dishes.  Make sure I am living in the present!  And even if it is a grilled cheese I serve up, do it with love!

Didn’t I tell you this was going to be random?

So enjoy that china you registered for when you got married, and pull that crystal out.  Serve a frozen dinner if you have to.  Just start making the memories people!  Don’t just pin it, live it.



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Caviar Server….

We were in Las Vegas a couple of weekends ago (I wish I was still there.  It was the perfect weekend with friends, weather, relaxation, great meals, a show, and just enough time for me to win all my money back  and extra…..$60.00 dollars.  I’m a high roller!)

Our second night in Las Vegas we had dinner at our hotel.  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.  I will not stay any place but the Wynn (or Encore.)  We went off the strip where I almost got black lung from the cigarette smoke.  Don’t get me wrong, the people watching and $5 craps tables are the best.  But, in the end I like a nice room, service and a casino that smells less smoky and more like a Bounty dryer sheet (have you ever noticed that?)  People always say they don’t care about the room.  But, I do.  Hotels in Vegas take a beating and age quickly.  The Wynn is not as perfect as it was when it first opened.  But, they’ve done pretty good with keeping it up.  Plus, the decor in itself is inspiring for me.

We went to SW Steakhouse and had the most delightful meal our second night.  I ordered the filet and ate maybe half of it at best.  My hubby had ordered another cut of steak.  My husband ended up taking my steak when I was finished and said it was probably one of the best he had ever had.  I’m just not a steak person in the least bit.  But, I was dying for protein by then.  A glass of red wine and a steak was perfect at that point.

One of the couples ordered caviar and it was fabulous.  My hubby and I are not likely to order caviar alone, so it was a treat to have someone that thought to order it.

I have not stopped thinking about it since!  It was delicious.  People think they don’t like caviar…..because usually they haven’t tried it.  But, if you like salt…..believe me you like caviar.

But the reason I really couldn’t stop thinking about it…..the server it came in.  I have never seen one like this when we’ve been out.

SW Steakhouse Caviar Service

It comes on the plate as you can see in this photo.  But, you can pick up this metal server and all the little dishes are attached.  Since it’s metal, the ice that is in the container under the caviar automatically keeps the toppings cold.  Genius.  Even in the nicest restaurants they usually come in beautiful bowls.  But, they do not stay cold for long.  And when you are dining on caviar and drinking champagne or vodka with it, you want it all cold.  Those Russians were onto something when this grew in popularity…..thanks to the French in the 1800s.  Although I swear I once read that Genghis Khan’s grandson originally discovered it?
So for two weeks I’ve been searching for one of these to buy. Only guess what?   It’s impossible!!!!  Steve Wynn (SW Steakhouse…..can you guess???) must have had his people have these made or bought them out.

I thought what a great hostess gift for the people that thought to order it.  Such sweet friends.  I also would like one of these for myself.  I know that my friend the foodie that loves a good lobster dinner for her birthday would also like caviar……I just know she would. Plus, champagne Sunday could really kick it up a notch!  Right?

Priss has rediscovered her love of oysters again too.  Can I tell you how excited we are?  She ate them when she was 2 years old.  Raw.  My mother grimaced and I gave her the death stare of “I dare you to dissuade her!”  But, as all 2 year olds do…..they like something one minute then hate it the next.  Not to mention it was a raw oyster she ate with just cocktail sauce.

At lunch a month or so ago we ordered 2 dozen oysters and she decided she wanted one.  I’ll admit after she was on her 4th one I realized…..we were in for trouble for years to come.  She loves them and that means we now either have to eat less ourselves as parents or add another half dozen.  First world problems!!!!

Friday night I was exhausted and ordered dinner for the kids.  Hubby was going out.  I was on the phone ordering when Priss said “can you order some oysters?”  Sure……
They came fried….b/c raw on ice on a Friday night delivery route is not my jam.  I only do that on Sundays……seriously.  It’s happened.

So if I was a betting type of person (like back up my $10 bet on the craps table betting) I’d bet Priss is going to dig on caviar.  Dear future hubby of Priss.  I’m sorry.  But, I’m not.  I didn’t settle.  Neither will my daughter.  So hopefully you’re out there right now learning the finer things in life as well.

Meanwhile if y’all see one of these servers….let me know.  I want one!!! Or two.  Or three.





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This and That on a Monday

We survived the weekend.  Which last Wednesday I was wondering how it would all get done.  We had two school parties, a huge neighborhood party, soccer games, ballet, a costume party and in the middle of all that I had to get flowers to church for mass this weekend.

Friday the kids were out of school and went with me to the wholesale market to place the Christmas poinsettia order for church.  Lucky for me they were given candy so the whole experience was just joyful for me (I’m dripping with sarcasm.)

Yesterday was  All Saints Day in the Catholic church.  I think other religions observe the day, but off the top of my head I’d be throwing darts in the dark to tell you.  So, our priest was talking about saints yesterday and what would your story be if you had to tell it.  I found it really interesting.  At the end of mass the Bubba heard our priest again talking about saints and he said “I want to a be a saint.”  We had to stop from giggling because his innocence in his goal is so sweet.  He told the priest when we left mass and I think our  priest was flattered that the 4.95 year old was listening.

I know it’s crazy.  But, we have exactly 23 days until Thanksgiving.  Only 50++ days until Christmas.
I already feel behind.  Anyone else?  I bought the first few Christmas gifts this weekend and it has my heart racing of “get more done fast!!!”
The day after Thanksgiving kicks off crazy time for us.  I mean like be up at 8 a.m and out the door crazy.  Not in a black Friday shopping way (since I don’t do that insanity.) I know we will not get a tree up until perhaps if I am lucky that Sunday.  Yet, when I think about a tree up three days after Thanksgiving I start to feel my heart racing.

I still have Christmas cards to pick out and order.

I have gifts to get in the mail.

I have to pull it together fast!

Meanwhile, Thanksgiving!!!  My favorite of all holidays.  I just love it.
I may have bought the turkey already though.  How funny is that??????

My friends mom told me that she bought the best Lego gift for one of her grandson, and she thought of the Bubba.

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Advent Set Legos

Legos for Advent

I think we really have to get these!  Bubba loves Legos.  He sits for hours and does them.  I never thought he would love them this much.  The Advent calendar idea is so cute.  But, I guarantee he will do the whole thing at once.  Building one tiny figure will not feed the beast so to speak.

This morning before school the kids called my parents (time change is awesome!  I had so much done this morning by 8:15!)  My mom was asking the kids what they think they want for Christmas.  In true Priss form “I don’t really need anything.”  I have no clue what we are going to buy her.  She’s past dolls….not a Barbie girl.  Games are not needed.  What do you do?

Just buy…..don’t rent! Fight the power!

Did you know in wedding talk news… costs more to rent a tuxedo than to buy one for your son that you will make wear a 5T?  I was able to purchase a brand new tux with shirt, tie for less than a rental.  How crazy is that?   Meanwhile how is it that I have a kid that is excited to wear a tuxedo?  He talks about it daily.  Daily.

See the pix?  You know why this looks so sharp?  No button!  Or vest.  It disappears.

In really funny news Hubby also has a new tux.  It was time.  Long over due for an updated look (even though a tuxedo never really goes out of style.)  My hubby…..had a question about the tux and I could tell he was fighting himself to ask.  He knew the answer but didn’t want to risk not asking.  Let’s just say I think he started to say ‘cummerbund” and then stopped.  He’s a product of prom’s in the 90s.  It was so funny!

So while the Halloween weekend is over…..we will take these next few weeks to appreciate the quiet calm with just a little bit of background noise that is the warning of what is to come!

Happy November!


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Trick or treating and dinner….

Dating back to the days that I was a nanny, Halloween has always been one of my favorites in terms of entertaining people for dinner.

It’s a fun night where the kids go out and get candy, and you can do a predinner or post trick or treating dinner.

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Days before Bubba arrived…..2010

For many years in our old house our friends Mike and Shana would come over.  I would make something warm and cozy for dinner and the littles (and I do mean little because I think Priss and R were only 3…..) would hang out and entertain themselves.  Like when R was standing on the dresser jumping off in his best Superman.  Priss was swooning and watching.  Oh how I wish I could go back in time!

This year will be our third…..Halloween in our house and it just keeps getting better and better.  We have a huge day planned (soccer, party, trick or treating, friends and more friends)

I couldn’t tell you if we will trick or treat in a group of 50 or in a group of 5.  I have no idea.  But, I do know that I want to have dinner on hand. The best way to keep dinner ready for me is to make stew.

I like to make one that has meat and one that doesn’t.  Then of course the typical chicken tenders in the oven for the kids.  By the end of the night we are all in need of protein.  Kids especially!

One of my all time favorite Veggie Stew  I like to add a few types of mushrooms.  Plus, shiraz is the best to cook in I’ve found.  In a pinch a Bordeaux will do.

I love this time of year.  Halloween is the kick off to the holidays.  Our next two months are going to be insane.  This feels like the calm before the storm!


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Gold Pumpkin

If I had a dollar each time someone passes by and sees my pumpkins…….and comments on them…..I’d be rich!

Fall Front Porch. #rsvpshindig #fern #urn #pumpkins #goldpumpkins #fall

My ferns and Gold Pumpkins

I am obsessed with gold paint.  I can’t stop myself.  I am also still obsessed with my ferns. I am plotting how I will birng them in for the winter to keep alive.  I need them to live on.  I just love them so much.

I can’t believe we are only a few weeks away for Halloween.  Costumes are done.  Pumpkins are out.  And the kids are asking for more decorations in the yard.  I am not a big fan of ‘death’ decor.  I just find it morbid.  But, I think we are going to try and surprise the kids with one of their wishes.  We’ll see.

I am already dreaming of Christmas.  Is that weird?  67 to go.  Which really means 57 if I want to get things in the mail on time.  There is so much going on between now and then that I am literally buying a notebook to keep my lists of list of lists in order.

Tartan Dinner Plates, Set of 4:

Williams Sonoma Dishes

I’m still mad about plaid!  I can’t find enough of it.

Last week I finally bought a chair to have redone.  I bought the chair for all of 24.99  I will perhaps spend more on recovering it than I would have a new one.  But, it was still only 24.99!!!!  I am really really having a hard time not recovering it to look like this:

Tartan fireside chair | Recycled Furniture | Vintage Furniture Bath | Interior Design Bath:

Recycled Fireside Tartan Chair

I am sooooo tempted.  The chair will go in my future library… it would totally go one day.  For now…not so much.  But, should I really care?  I just know that I love tartan and I love how cozy it makes a room feel.  My current den is not cozy due to all the windows and lack of decorating in that room.  It’s the throw away furniture room.  It has all my old furniture when I was single and living in the cute decorated apartments.  I am closer to making it a grown up room….but it’s still down the list after a few other rooms.

I just think I need a plaid chair.  It needs to happen……so what if it sticks out.  Right?



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Three years ago I woke up knowing I had lost our third child.  But, it was an entire day before it was confirmed.  On 10.12.12 I delivered.

I said at the time that I wish I could just forget that we went thru this.  I still feel like that.  I didn’t know then that three years later that I would think about Cooper every single day.

I ever so often hear from Bubba that he wishes he wasn’t the littlest one in our family.  He wasn’t supposed to be.  Priss asks for a baby at least once a month.  I’m sad that my children never got that chance with Cooper.  I’m sad that my husband didn’t get to have two boys, especially if Cooper would have been anything like Bubba. I’m not sure Priss and I would have survived three against us though.

The last few weeks leading up to this anniversary have been rougher for me this year than even last year.  Grief has it’s own agenda. I rejoice in the Bubba and Priss.  It’s nauseating and I own it.  I have been given two sweet children who do adore one another.  Maybe they are closer because they have been through the loss of a brother?  Who knows.

I’ve tried when I can to be a support to others that go thru the loss of a child.  Every story is different.  For me, I am thankful that i didn’t really know this child we lost. I can’t even begin to understand what it is like when a mother has taken her baby home only to deal with SIDS, an accident or illness.  God graced me and my husband.  I would have rather that Cooper out lived us.  But, it’s not a perfect world and we unfortunately didn’t get to choose.

I still don’t have any profound advice to anyone that goes through this.  I don’t have the perfect condolences to give. I was talking to a family friend who during her first pregnancy lost twins.  She went on to have twins later.  She has had a lot of mothering experience.  Her oldest children are now in college and such great young adults.  They are friendly, engaging, well read, kind, considerate people.

I always like advice from any mom that I view as a mom that has raised children that I strive to raise my children to be as well.  We were talking about dealing with grief.  I asked her (hoping she would say I would forget) if she always remembers the date.  She said she does.  She shared just a few little things and it just reminded me how strong a mom can be when she wants to be.  It’s a horrible horrible sisterhood in motherhood you share with someone when you’ve gone thru loss of a child.  You get such comfort from one another.  I can’t explain what it is exactly.  I’m always comforted how I leave a conversation with another mom feeling repaired in some small way.

I wasn’t going to post anything this year.  But, I had a few people reach out and ask me if there would be a post.  I’ve always said I will stop posting about Cooper on the anniversary of his death when it no longer seems to help anyone.

It’s been a journey.  We learned a lot about relationships, ourselves and what is important.  It still is a comfort on the anniversary that we hear from family and friends that say they are thinking of us.  Just seeing Coopers name in a text is sweet and makes us feel loved.  A simple we are thinking of you means the world.  It’s amazing how many people we have in our lives that are our champions.  It means the world.

I didn’t sit and cry this year.  I thought I would.  I was prepared.  We were in church yesterday morning when I started feeling the tears start to creep up.  But, I looked down at the Bubba in his little blue sports coat and his sweet little brown loafers holding my hand and it helped me stop the tears.

Part of mass yesterday was that Priss had to give a prayer card with her name in it to someone at mass.  Once that person receives the mass card they pray for her over these next few months (maybe year…I’m not certain)  She had told us she wanted to give her card to a specific mom.  That mom was not at mass and I told her she would need to pick someone else.

Well, it blew us away when she walked up to a dad from our soccer team.  Priss doesn’t warm up to men very often.  So this was a huge deal!!!!  When she went to bed last night she was tickled pink and said “there is somebody praying for me!!!”  It was so sweet! This morning the wife sent a sweet email that said:

I put the first note in the basket at church.  When she came toward us with her prayer card at mass, I looked at her sweet smiling face and immediately thought of a line from one of my favorite church songs, On Eagles Wings.  The line of the song is, “…make you to shine like the sun, and hold you in the palm of His hand.”  

I cried when I read that.  On Eagles Wings is first of all my mother’s favorite song.  Whenever I hear it I immediately think of her.  As a mother you see your child as perfect even when they are not.  You have Mom Goggles.  Priss is a really sweet girl.  She loves her friends.  She loves her friends siblings. She loves us and her brother with an intensity that I pray stays around forever.  If we have people over everyone knows that they can leave their little one with Priss because she is going to mother them.  To the point that recently friends were over and their 2 year old was running after Priss calling her “mommy”  It was a riot!

But, when another mom and dad sees that in your child……it makes you feel like you are doing something right.

So on this weekend where it could have been a tad more depressing……it’s been a weekend of thanks for what we have in our lives.

Life goes on.  It’s not all rainbows and unicorns every day.  But, every day we have together is a blessing and a joy and one we don’t take for granted.

xo N

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What I learned in September….

I learned that the month passed by too fast!

I learned that not all gold spray paints are created equal and that there is one that I am so obsessed with that I am actually going out and looking for things to spray paint.  If you are a person that loves immediate results (like what a room looks like when you make a bed, or vacuuming…) then you too can get the same addiction I have.  Spray painting everything in your path.

No Pumpkin Left Behind

Why yes I am spray painting all my pumpkins…….for real!

I learned that not all fresh made pastas are created equal at Whole Foods.  I served paste with parmesan to my family and we all agreed it was not worth it!  Just because it’s in a cold case and packaged pretty and 8.99 for a small serving doesn’t mean it’s good.  Shocking, right?

I was once again reminded that you get what you pay for.  I bought cabinets on sale from Home Depot.  That was the easy part.  What has come since my September 1st purchase has been time spent delaying delivery since we were out of town.  Only to find out they canceled delivery all together.  Rescheduled delivery and they dropped them in my alley.  If you don’t live in Denver then you don’t know that we have nonstop roofing going on.  Hence lots of strangers coming and going. So when I got home to find all my new cabinets blocking my garage and had three different people ask if they could take my cabinets……let’s just say NEVER AGAIN.

I’ve learned that a schedule can be the joy of our household.  We have one night a week right now that is just insane.  It’s nonstop.  I’m racing all over town to get everyone in the right place.  But, joy of joys it’s become such a happier night knowing that we have to get homework done from 3:45 to 4:15.  We read in the car.  We do spelling on the drive home.  Thank you for the invention of an ipad!  It’s just a practice round anyway, but we are making the most of our time.  Religion has even made it’s way into our rotation.  The work book for religion is daunting to me!  But, so far so good!

I learned how to make the correct breakfast burrito.  I’m told they were good.  I hope so.  I know one thing for certain, the breakfast potatoes I made to go with them are now in my cooking rotation and will be for the next twenty years at least.

Breakfast potatoes…..its whats for breakfast, brunch, lunch and dinner.

I also learned that my kids are ready for card games and I am so excited.  We are this much closer to gin rummy tournaments and I am beside myself!

I can’t say I am happy that September is over.  We had so many amazing events last month. But, I am looking forward to a busy 31 days of October.  I’m ready for cooler weather (just not snow!)   I’m hoping we have a longer fall than summer.  Summer never seemed to kick start.  I do love crisp mornings and fall colors.  Everything is coming up pumpkin flavored too!

Happy Fall Y’all!


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It’s about to get PINK

I have ordered the wallpaper for the laundry room.  I am beside myself with excitement.

South Sea #wallpaper in #pink from the Resort collection. #Thibaut:

South Sea Wallpaper from Thiabaut

I also went ahead and ordered the wallpaper for my powder room since it was on sale!  I saved 30% on the order.

I am certain on the wall that faces out of the basement I can’t wallpaper.  So I may just have to paint it pink.  But, only time will tell once I start wallpapering.  Because yes, I am wallpapering it myself.  I have had the worst time finding someone to wallpaper and not charge an arm and a leg.  Our powder room is literally a closet.  It’s tiny!!!!!  And there is not really any wall space in there.  The least anyone quoted on that room was something like $1100.00 and that was not including the wallpaper.  I’ve been told for a room that has a window, door, a mirror that takes up one wall along with a vanity that I needed 8 double rolls.  There is NO WAY you can use that much wallpaper.  And for as pickie as I will be with how well the wallpaper matches……I just threw in the towel and decided I’d take on wallpapering one room myself.  Hence why I am doing the laundry room in wallpaper.  If I can’t accomplish it myself in a room that nobody but me myself and I sees….then I’ll revisit paying the $1100.00 to someone else.  I can’t even believe I’m considering wallpaper.  I have not liked wallpaper since 1998 when I wallpapered another powder room, kitchen nook, and one tiny hallway wall.  Everything comes back again!

I can’t wait to have a room that is pink!!!!  Priss has a pink room, but it’s her space.  I want my own space that is pink and just for me.  Even if it is the laundry room slash craft room slash office slash hideout for me.  I may actually be putting a wine fridge in too.  I’m not even kidding.  But, more on that later.  I’m currently shopping for a utility sink that is worthy of the Queen’s palace.  I have to get rid of the gross plastic one that is from the previous owner.  I need something pretty!

If you have a pretty utility sink….please email me.


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